RYS 71: Face Challenges Head-On

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Nothing positive comes from running away from the problems we create. Trying to shun responsibility or wanting someone to come to our rescue only results in disappointment and heartache. The freedom and peace of mind we desire come from facing our problems with the faith that we can overcome the challenges we face.

• We have the power to stop creating fearful situations by making good choices in the areas where we have personal power.
• By being honest about what is happening our focus becomes remaining determined to keep moving forward.
• We can dig ourselves out of any hole we are in when we realize we are the one holding the shovel.

 

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Our Actions Teach

Character-makes-one-richMy mother taught me to smoke cigarettes.  Of course it was not her intent to do so. But each time she lit up I learned by her example that smoking was okay, even though she told me over and over to “do as she said rather than as she did.”

The problem with “do as I say not as I do,” is that 80-90% of all communication is non-verbal. That means our behavior is vastly more influential in teaching others than our words.

One of the most important things for us to remember is that what to value and how to behave appropriately must be taught. You and I have the responsibility to be a positive example for others of how life works best, especially children, because they learn from watching us. So if we do not intentionally teach them how to behave and what to value they will learn on their own through television, video games, the internet, movies and their peers.  With something as important as values at stake, we do not want to leave their character to chance. One way to be a positive hands-on example is to remember it is our actions that teach.

RYS 70: Accept What Is

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How much precious time do you and I waste wanting other people or situations to be different from how they are? To lead with our heart, we must honestly look at how unreasonable it is to suffer under the false impression we have the power to control or change other people or the negative, frustrating, inconvenient, or heartbreaking situations we encounter in life.

• No amount of anger, yelling, worry, or desire for revenge changes what is real in the moment at hand.
• True power is accepting the present circumstance for what it is, rather than what we think it should, would, or could be.
• Accepting what is releases us from the misconception we can control or change people and unchangeable situations of life.

 

 

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We All Make Mistakes

forgivenes-flow-freeYou and I make mistakes. If you are like me then we do not intentionally intend to hurt people when we make an error. We are not acting maliciously. It just happens that there are times when our behavior is not perfect. Not a big surprise since we are not perfect. Neither are other people.

I believe the majority of people we encounter in daily life who make mistakes are not trying to intentionally hurt other people. So when someone hits our car, or runs a red light just as we’re about to walk across an intersection, or lets go of their shopping cart and it rolls into our parked car, I do not think the majority of people “intend” to do it.

This is important to remember when we encounter challenging situations in life. We experience less stress and upset when we remember that sometimes we make mistakes. Rather than going to the automatic place of “you should have known better,” we take a deep breath and remember there are times we mess up to.

RYS 069: Admit When You Are Wrong

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Your behavior creates your life. You cannot control or change anyone else but yourself. How other people choose to behave is a reflection on them. People may be rude, insulting, condescending, or deceitful, and yet their behavior is a reflection of who they are. How you behave in response is a reflection of who you are.

• Your behavior demonstrates, to you and to others, your level of self-discipline, which reveals how much you love and respect yourself.
• Admitting when you are wrong is the action that gets you on the right track.
• Holding yourself accountable empowers you to make different, more positive choices next time.

 

 

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RYS 068: Love Approaches Everyone as a Unique Individual

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Whether it is religion, gender, political views or any of the other countless ways we differ as human beings, we cannot just group all people into one category with a “they’re all the same” attitude. Even though people may share the same religion some of them may be extremists with an agenda of hate while the vast majority are doing their best each day to spread peace and love.

• It is not responsible to jump to conclusions about groups of people based on hearsay or prejudicial fear.
• Love approaches everyone as a unique individual.
• Love looks at someone’s consistent behavior to determine who he or she truly is.

 

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Action Helps Stop Worry

You are not your problemsFor many years I worried. About my job, relationships, family, the future, of going to hell, other people’s opinions of me. You name it and I worried about it. But worry was like a heavy blanket that smothered the life out of my present. And, not once did anything I worried about come true, or if it did then the outcome was a fraction of the degree that I imagined it would be.

Worry does not control the future. Worry does not prevent life from hurting at times. Worry is a useless activity that sucks the joy out of us.

I taught myself to stop worrying when I started striving to end each day without regret, to not go to bed angry, to control what I can control (me), to prevent what I can prevent, and to have faith in something greater than myself to handle all the rest.

RYS 067: Remember Your Actions Teach

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While it is said the greatest legacy we leave is children, I believe the greatest legacy we can ever leave is choosing how well we live. Part of leaving the greatest legacy we can is to make certain we take the time, have the patience and love necessary to raise a child by being the strict gatekeeper of what behavior we model for them. And we must care what children are exposed to.

• To do our very best to most positively influence children we must stop passing the buck and own complete responsibility for the truth it is our actions that teach.
• We must show children appropriate ways of dealing with anger, how to peacefully stand up for themselves and others, how to be responsible, and how to be accepting of difference.
• To be able to show children the best way to live, how to love and respect themselves, how to not be abused, and how to set healthy boundaries, we must know how to do these things for ourselves.

 

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Yes You Can, When You Think You Can

Victor-over-challengesOften I receive emails from people who say, “Regina I just can’t” …do whatever it is they want to do to rid themselves of suffering.  Honestly who says we cannot?  A fearful mind that has a mind of its own. That’s who.  We tell ourselves we can’t and we believe it.

Not once did accepting an excuse (it’s easier said than done, or I just can’t get it together, or I’m trying, or what does it matter anyway, or I can’t …etc.) help me lose weight, stop gossiping, stop smoking, stop cutting myself and others down, stop allowing myself to be mistreated, etc. Excuses did nothing to help me create a happy, responsible, stress-free life. The excuses I made were attempts to justify why I was choosing not to make the changes I knew I needed to. Excuses gave my mind permission to beat me up. Excuses robbed me of my power.

I took my power back to create the life I have when I stopped accepting my own excuses. No, it’s not always easy to follow through and take the necessary action. But it is the only way for me to get from point A, the goal I want to accomplish, to point B, accomplishing the goal.

YES YOU CAN! Step one – stop accepting your own excuses.  Love yourself more than that and make yourself take the actions necessary to reach the goals you set for yourself. There is no one coming to your rescue. YOU must be your own hero!

RYS 066: Do What You Can Beforehand

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One of the most valuable lessons to learn is the importance of being prepared. The actions we take beforehand can and do save us time, energy, and in many cases lots of money. No, we cannot realistically prepare for each and every life event, but we can prevent much suffering and regret by taking action to be as prepared as possible.

• A fundamental part of living a heart-centered life is doing our best to prepare ourselves to take advantage of life’s opportunities and to overcome its challenges.
• Often we get so caught up in the daily grind we don’t take time to actually evaluate ways we can do life more efficiently.
• From education, to career, to relationships the more we prepare the better off we are.

 

 

 

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